As moms, we often take care of everyone else first and neglect ourselves. It’s easy to do when you’re running between work, the playground, pick-ups, drop-offs, and figuring out the answer to “what’s for dinner?” We tend to put ourselves last when we’re taking care of everyone first. First, know that you need to take time for yourself as a mom to be the best mom. Second, this knowledge will help you prioritize time to yourself every day. Being intentional is the key.
Why you need to take time for yourself
Psychologist Today in “Why is parent self-care so important?” points out self-care helps us avoid being needy and empty, allows us to be the best role models for our children, and we can turn our attention to things that we enjoy. In short, taking time to ourselves ensures we’ll be happy, and happy moms make better moms.
How many times have you answered “So busy!” when asked how you are or what you’ve been up to? It’s automatic because it’s true. However, busy implies stress and imbalance.
Perhaps it’s as simple as changing the words we use to describe our lives. Words matter — they powerfully shape how we see ourselves and how we interpret our actions.Sarah Rudell Beach
Making ‘me time’ a priority affirms you are investing in yourself. Whether you want to make time to learn something new, move more, or simply relax, intentionally dedicating a block of time to you will also help you feel more in control and balanced.
- Know ‘me time’ is important for your mental health
- Prioritizing time to yourself makes you a better role model for your kids
- Being intentional takes some of the “busy” and stress out of your schedule
1. AUDIT YOUR SCHEDULE
If you’re someone who thinks or says out loud, “there aren’t enough hours in the day…” try this tried-and-true trick: figure out how you spend the hours in each day.
Laura Vanderkamp, author and speaker, recommends a time audit. The 168 hour time challenge tracks your time in 15 or 30 minute increments, so you can see exactly how you spend your time. This helps to “find” the time you didn’t know you had! If you’re trying to figure when you can workout, or start a blog, or take a bath, or walk and listen to a podcast… a time audit will reveal the 30-45 minutes you can devote to yourself.
2. SCHEDULE YOUR TIME
Adding “me time” to your schedule – especially something like a 30 minute workout – makes you committed to it. When you have it scheduled, you’re prioritizing it, and planning for it. Write it down in your planner. Have the conversations with everyone who helps take care of your kids that you are making this a priority. Schedule it in your outlook calendar. Just add it to your schedule! Simply having the block scheduled helps get you through all of the chaos a day can bring. One author explains just the anticipation of ‘me time’ can have benefits:
Studies show that the anticipation of vacation can bring just as much psychological reward as the actual vacation. Shane Lopez, a Gallup senior scientist and author of “Making Hope Happen,” calls this “nexting.” Knowing that relief and rest are coming keeps parents energized for today’s puppet shows and snack times, tumbles and sibling tussles.Why self-care is an important part of parenting, and how to make time for it via Washington Post
THINGS TO DO IN 30 MINUTES
Now that you’ve discovered and scheduled time, what do you plan to do with it!? Here are some ideas:
- Walk + listen to a podcast
- Lock the bathroom door + take a bath
- Read a book for fun, something you can get lost in reading
- Paint with watercolor
- Commit to a Masterclass or Skillshare
- Take a yoga class
- Meet a friend for coffee
- Write in your journal
- Watch a TV show you’ve heard is amazing
- And don’t feel guilty if you just mindlessly scroll through instagram stories or Pinterest!
- Exercise for 30 minutes
Share in the comments…
what would you do with an extra 30-60 minutes a day just for you?